This post is based on an earlier article titled “There are men…” by Lindsay that can be found here: http://loveaddictnyc.com/2012/04/23/there-are-men/. I found it quite interesting. You may want to read it first.
There are women out there who will respond to your text messages like it’s the most important thing in the world. Women who will initiate conversations because they simply cannot wait to see what you will say next and do not care about playing hard to get. There are women who will never be too busy or too preoccupied to wish you good morning, regardless of whether they are a country or a block away. Women who will remember to call when they say they will, not because you have complained a thousand times about how they never call, but because they want to. There are women who will surprise you with their curiosity about your sometimes monotonous days. There are women who do not try to be fashionably late, show up on time – or even early – women who are genuinely excited to see you.
There are women who want to go out on dates and never actually expect you to pay each and every time, but absolutely appreciate the fact that you do so anyway. There are women who do not expect you to beg and grovel just so they can see you for one drink after work. Women who are not purely motivated by what you can do for them, but just simply love being around you. There are women who will not wait three days – or even three hours – to call you back. Women who have grown past games and cryptic messages that you do not have the time to decode.
There are women who love it when you hold their hands in public. Women who enjoy walking around department stores completely comfortable with the fact that you cannot afford a lot of things but simply love the feeling of your hands interlaced with theirs while you walk around dreaming and wishing you could afford those things. There are women who love sitting next to you while you both do absolutely nothing, just so they can look at your face even if they notice the uneven lines and imperfect skin, because they cannot imagine another way to spend their Saturday afternoon. Women who wish they could capture the appreciation on your face when they tell you they are happy to have you despite all your flaws. Women who want to show you off to strangers on the street because they find you so incredibly amazing. There are women who are happy to be seen by your side, thankful that you are someone they chose to roam around town with.
There are women who want to be your girlfriend; who are totally excited to introduce you as their boyfriend to their friends, families and to the men who try to pick them up in bars. Women who are not unavailable, who are ready for a relationship, who are not ripe with excuses why the timing or the situation, the feeling or the possibility just isn’t right. Women who will not blame yesterday on their inability to develop something today and imagine a better tomorrow. There are women who will not pass up a chance to be yours because they know how amazing – how special – how superbly wonderful you are and that they are lucky you want to be with them, and only them. There are women who do not hesitate on title changes or commitment. Women who want to grow with you and learn with you, love you the best they can, be with you as long as you prove that you really want them. Women who do not reply “thank you” when you say those precious three words. There are even women who say that incomparable phrase first, not second.
There are women who are proud, inspired and motivated by your successes, not intimidated by them. Women who are amazed by your determination and passion, who see things inside of you that you cannot even notice yet, or decide to ignore. There are women who believe in your future as much as they believe in the world you can create together. Women who want to witness your bad times and your good, be there when you fail and celebrate when you find that sense of belonging that we all look for. There are women who remember you are sometimes too proud to take their advice in the worst of situations but you will want to hear it in the morning. Women who remind you of all the things to come and promise to be there when you get to the top of that mountain you are climbing. There are women who do not just say that, but really mean it and are there at the peak, and in the valley.
There are women who listen. Women who linger on each and every word you say because they know they will never know too much about you and are intrigued to always learn more, regardless of how long they have known you. There are women who have an astounding ability to nurture, to put your needs before their own, who remember the first time they noticed something different about you. Women who like the way you look when you are dressed to go out and when you’re in your boxer shorts and “morning wood” right out of bed. Women who see your insecurities but find them only a tiny, insignificant part of what makes you amazing. There are women who will remember the moment they knew they loved you and when you made them want to be a better person. There are women who love your thoughtful heart as much as they love your masculine features. Women who are not afraid to explore their unique bodies, tell you how they like it and guide you to the right places whenever you cannot exactly figure it out yourself. There are women who will accept you for whatever and whoever you are. Women who will stand by you – and fight for you – because they know you’re worth it, because they know you will do the same for them.
There are women who will surge with excitement rather than sigh in regret when they tell the children you do not have yet, how you spent weeks, months or even a year planning the perfect way to propose. Women who will realize how much nervousness and worry you had to deal with while wondering whether they will say YES or NO. There are women who will respond gleefully to your sweet – or “dirty” – text messages at work, even after you have been married twenty years.
There are most likely no women who will do each and every one of these things. But there are women who will try with everything they’ve got. There are women who will not be too afraid, too guarded or too arrogant to truly, honestly and completely love you.